About an hour ago I was on facebook looking at random pages and decided to update my status based on a convo I had with my business partner yesterday evening. My status currently reads: "I don't see anything wrong with a prenup. i'm not getting married without one."
Yes I said it and I'll say it again. I'm NOT getting married without a prenup. People responded with the usual, "well if you're not sure/don't trust your future spouse then why would you get married in the first place?" I'll gladly answer that question in detail here on the blog.
Let me first start by saying, your girl K.Reid is not pressed to get married at all. I'm so content living the single life it's not funny. My mom is slightly blown that I'm not pressed to get married and see nothing wrong with having a kid at 40. If I do decide to settle down in the future, we're having that discussion...matter of fact, I'll bring the shit up if we start seriously dating so there's no shock down the line if we decide to get married. To me, not having a prenup is like buying a house without homeowners insurance. I mean you hope a tornado, flood, fire, etc. doesn't happen but you still get the insurance just in case.
Marriage is the same to me. Don't get me wrong. I think marriage is sacred. My parents have been married for almost 40 years and I pray that I find someone that I can spend 40 years with but I'm not going into thinking it's a freakin fairytale and we'll be together forever. Man shit happens, people change and you can't predict emotions at all.
As an artist and as an entrepreneur, I can't take that risk. My business partner and I both agreed that we will both have our potential spouses sign some sort of agreement saying they can't touch any of Transcend.'s profits. It's not fair to either one of us if our respective marriages don't work out and either one of our ex's demands half. To take it further, as an artist I'll be damned if I pay anyone I marry a portion of the profits from anything I write.
Smokey from Friday said it best "you didn't put in on this maaaaan!" Do you know how effin hard/consuming/draining it is to write a novel, screenplay, cartoon (I started writing a cartoon the other day :) this will be discussed in another post)??? It's hard as hell man. I'm not working my ass off on something completely by myself to get married in 5-10 years and the shit possibly not work out, only to have a judge tell me my ex gets a portion of money I made long before we were together.
Hell to the naw man. It' ain't happenin. For the record, I think it's wrong on both ends if a man or a woman does it. I feel bad for male artists that have to give up half...half though, the wife can't just get 5-10% for the kids? I do think there are exceptions too, like if I had a man that was with me when I didn't have shit to my name, supported me like nobodys business, was out there on the street with me hustling my books, doing everything to help me before I blow up...that's different. I will gladly break him off if things don't work out.
However, seeing as how I'm going to be single until the day I blow up and long after, I'm not payin shit and my future husband is signing a prenup. End of story.
Shout out to Kanye for providing the inspiration.
